Ex-Man Files

Ok... so, normally I don't write about Mr. Exman... because normally he's off my radar and I don't have any reason to share the banalities that go on betwixt us (which isn't much)...

However, tonight, at 11 o'clock at night, I got a call from a friend up in the Cities. The call was to inform me that Mr. Exman is being evicted from the place he lives. Fine. Dandy. Except that he's not got a place to go, he's not got a job and he intends to just leave everything behind.(While I think it sucks to be him if he ends up on the streets, that is the bed he has made and I can't and won't even TRY to fix that) When our friend asked him if maybe he should give me a call, he told her that I had given up a legal right to everything in the dwelling when I left. Ummm, well... technically speaking, I left some things there with the expectation that they would be utilized, not abandoned. And if they're just going to be abandoned, I have things that I want.

What gets me is that he has fucking known about this for a while and has not said one word to me about it. I had a string of days off that I could have been up there getting what I wanted. This past weekend would have been a great time to do it (because I know he was out at a convention this weekend... yeah.. denial ain't just a river in Egypt, folks).

So, I am pissed off and have a logisitical nightmare (and a late night) to work through. THIS, my friends, is why the man is an ex... he is NOT a responsible adult. By ANY stretch of the imagination. I have faults. I freely admit that. I'm not easy to live with. But I live and function in the adult world. I pay my bills. I hold a job. I don't live in constant denial. I realize I need to work on things and that I need to work to improve myself. And I strive to be a better person. I will be an adult about this. I will not say the things I want to say. But the bottom line is that this is NOT my fault. It's not my responsibility to "fix it" and Mr. ExMan can answer the wake-up call or live with the consequences of his actions (or inaction, as the case may be).

I now return you to your regularly scheduled programming.